Taking Stock: May 2016

I first read a “Taking Stock” post by Valerie of Cateyes and Carrots. After snooping around the blogosphere, I eventually found the originator of the Taking Stock Posts, Pip at Meet Me At Mikes. I thought it was a pretty rad way of reflecting on the month and looking at all the things that have happened so far and, in this case, a way to reintroduce myself to this blog. Here goes.

Making: different clothes and outfits. I get this mad rush of inspiration occasionally and I cannot afford to let it pass me by without going HAM. 

Cooking: Not very much. Because, leftovers and laziness. 

Drinking: Not enough water. Sucks for me. 

Reading: Girls At War by Chinua Achebe and Africa39.

Wanting: to recreate my personal space asap. 

Looking: forward to Ramadan. Lord knows this girl needs a serious Iman boost. 

Playing: phones games a whole lot less. 

Deciding: to shut out every form of negativity. 

Wishing: the fuel price hike would be reversed and the economy would get better soon. 

Enjoying: the time and good health I have been blessed with. I’m constantly reminded about how this is a gift from Allah I need to use to the fullest. 

Waiting: for change. 

Liking: cute children videos on the Internet. Brightens up my day. 

Wondering: why airport announcers tend to sound nasal. 

Loving: the woman I am becoming, in and out.

Disliking: wall geckos. Eek. 

Buying: Lots of oils. I love trying out new oils but my all time go to has to be coconut oil. 

Watching: People. People watching can be fun sometimes. It beats pressing your phone every time in my opinion. 

Hoping: that I get to finish my reading challenge for the year. I don’t want to buy new books if I can’t finish the ones I have.

Marveling: at how resilient Nigerians can be. 

Needing: to get my workout game in check. 

Smelling: like coconut oil mostly. 

Wearing: more high waist skirts. Very flattering, in my opinion. Lol. 

Knowing: that protecting my space is key to my peace of mind.

Believing: that everything will work out well in the end. 

Preparing: for joy. 

Thinking: about new recipes. 

Bookmarking:  This. I’m looking to add chia seeds in my diet. Does anyone have tips?

Giggling: at old Top Gear episodes. 


Hello August!

It seems like only yesterday it was January and now we are looking forward to the end of the year. It is crazy how time flies so quickly but what is even crazier is the fact the we do not enjoy the time that has passed. We are constantly chasing something or trying to hit our goals that we don’t pause to breathe and enjoy the journey.
For me, that’s how most of the year has been. I have been constantly chasing certain dreams and right now I’m spent and tired. I have been living with the idea that my life should look a certain way, I should be at a certain weight or I should be earning a certain amount of money. This month I have decided it is time to reset. I have decided to breathe and enjoy the process and just live.
I am trying to get rid of the ‘shoulds’. Because in all honesty, how it is right now is how it should be. I am here right now and that’s enough. If I drop dead now, I really won’t want to see all the times I spent thinking about what should have been. All I’d want to see would be the times I actually lived in the present. How I enjoyed right now. Hopefully, that would be enough for me.

One way to enjoy the present would be to do the things you love and for me that would be making Bucket Lists…and living them out. Or as this crazy blogger would call it, Life Lists. I have had a major one since forever but I’m constantly waiting on something big to happen before I get to it. I get a bucket list sent to my email every month so this time I decided to get to it. Here is my list for the month.

●Try a new fruit.
●Grow something.
●Go geocaching for a day.
●Write a short story.
●Visit a place you have never been to before.
●Try out a new cuisine.
●Finish at least 2 books this month.
●Complete a drawing or painting.
●Go swimming.
●Make a new friend.

I hope to finish this at the end of the month. Any awesome stories will be shared.
Don’t forget to try something fun. Create your own list. Whatever you do, live.
Ciao lavs.

Wardrobe Staples: Bags and Accesories

Wardrobe Staples: Bags and Accesories

Wardrobe Staples: Jewellery

Wardrobe Staples: Jewellery

Wardrobe Staples: Shoes

Wardrobe Staples: Shoes

Christian Louboutin leather pumps
$630 – net-a-porter.com

Versus gold heel shoes
$585 – danielfootwear.com

D orsay flat

Heels & pumps

Greek sandals

Ballet shoes
$15 – newlook.com

Wardrobe Staples: Clothing

Wardrobe Staples: Clothing

Loyd Ford lace dress
$1,735 – montaignemarket.com

Little Mistress black dress
$44 – houseoffraser.co.uk

Pierre Balmain black jacket
$1,175 – thecorner.com

Be Selfish

Hello lavs!
How are you guys doing with your ‘resolutions’? The first month in 2015 is already over (pretty quick, huh?), and sadly a lot of us have dropped half of our ‘resolutions’ already.

It’s kinda obvious that I’m always talking about goals and self improvement. I’m all about that. But the truth, while it is fun to write down all the things you intended to achieve in the future, it is a lot harder and a lot less fun actually working to fulfil those goals.

It’s February 1st and I’m sure some of us expected a sudden change in our characters, our weights, and everything we wished for in general. Honey, it took you about 9 months to be made, it took you a whole lot more time to develop the habits you have now, so it is going to take even more time to achieve your goals. It has to be a conscious effort. You will fall and get up again. That’s what makes your journey unique and exciting. Even when you love what you have started, creating time for it might be very hard.

So today, for the month of February, I want to leave you (and me first) with a couple of advices.

1. Make your goals realistic for you. A friend of mine told me to join her in reading 200 books this year. As much as I love to read, I just do not have enough time at the moment. I have not even finished the first book I started. So, I told myself, I would read as much as I can this year. I have to be realistic and understand that I have a lot on my plate right now. That way, even if I don’t read up to 200 books, I won’t feel like I failed at my goal.

2. Make your goals fun and pleasurable. If you have a goal that seems like the one I mentioned above, after a while it begins to look like a chore. All the fun gets taken out of it because you have put yourself in a box. Relax. Take it easy on yourself. There are tons of things daily that stress us out already.

3. Do it for you. Not for your friends. Not for your partner. Not for social media. Make a change for you. Whether it is losing weight or travelling more, do it because you want to. Not because everyone is doing it or someone says you should.

4. Everyday do something that gets you closer to your goal.

Overall, when it involves improving ourselves, we have to be ready to fight like hell to do it. Whether it is working out daily, eating healthier, quitting alcohol, it is not going to be easy.
So take a minute and think about your goals again. Ask yourself why you want to engage in those particular things. Take a big breath. Be selfish. Make those goals about yourself first. Put yourself first. Embrace your journey.
Trust me, it would work out this time.
In sha Allah.


Are Dreadlocks Haram?

Salam Lavs!

Now I have been thinking about locking my hair for a while and although this seems like a pretty exciting idea to me, a lot of people seem to bring up the word ‘haram’ when I mention it. However, none of them really have any solid evidence to back it up.

Honestly, I think that dreadlocks will be easier for the Muslimah lifestyle (for me at least). It’s natural, there will be no need to braid my hair for Ghusl, mucho hijab volume…need I say more? Plus my hair kinda locks naturally. Hence my interest in locs.

It is a really big step to take, considering that I can’t take it out like regular braids if I want to and I can’t readily revert to my normal hair if I get tired. Plus, all this talk about it being Haram is making me hesitate.
I will really be willing to listen anyone’s honest opinion concerning locs, especially with evidence, as to whether they are haram or halal.

I’d also be willing to listen to anyone’s personal advice, whether based on personal experience or not.

Until next time lavs, Ciao!

Book of the Week: She Wore Red Trainers

Salam lavs!

She Wore Red Trainers

Rad cover, right? I haven’t finished reading this book yet but I decided to post this review nonetheless.

She Wore Red Trainers is a Muslim book by award-winning author, Naima B. Roberts. It tells the story of two teenagers, Ali and Amirah. Ali has just lost his mum and moved to a new place. He meets Amirah and notices everything about her, down to her red trainers. He is still struggling with his faith, the loss of his mum and keeping his family together. Amirah also has family issues of her own. Burdened with a mother who always seems to pick the wrong men and younger siblings she has to take care of, life isn’t exactly rosy and she has vowed never to get married. Suddenly she meets Ali and they cannot stop thinking about each other.
This is a wonderful story about young love and romance. Falling in love as a teenager can be quite confusing and for Muslims, certain borders must not be crossed. Ali and Amirah struggle with their tumultuous lives and with their thoughts of each other and only hope that things can turn out for the best in the end. This is a beautiful read for teenagers and adults.

‘She Wore Red Trainers’ is published by Kube Publishing

You can get a free read here.

Book of the Week: I Kissed Dating Goodbye

Hello Lavs! 

The book of this week is “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” by Joshua Harris. 

Let me just start by saying that I love this book a whole lot! It came at a point in my life when I had an entirely different outlook on dating and I was amazed to find that someone felt the exact same way…and actually wrote a book about it! Now before you all go rolling eyes at me, I am not saying y’all should stop relating with the opposite sex and all. All I am saying is for us to remove selfishness when delving into any relationship, and I mean any one at all. You know, quit the pretense and just be yourself. 

This book is about viewing love and singleness from God’s perspective, not ours. It is about remembering our service to God in all relationships, romantic or not. It is just not about ‘not dating’. It’s about reevaluating your whole life, your whole approach to relationships and making sure that you are not pursuing it for selfish reasons.

Plus, with the kind of relationships we have these days, we tend to put ourselves in compromising situations that only end up in disaster. The Prophet of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “No man is alone with a woman but the Shaytaan is the third one present.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1171).

Harris believes that dating has become too inwardly focused. He feels that people date to find “their” mate according to their own principles, rules, and desires. In doing so, he argues, people put up a façade in an attempt to appear to be what the other person wants, and this hampers the “getting to know you” part of dating.

I totally agree with the author on that note and I believe that we bring that attitude most of the time when we attempt dating. Maybe not on purpose sometimes. But we do. I do not intend to cross any moral barriers or tell you what to do or not do. But I personally believe that anyone can gain something from this book, irrespective of belief. The author just wants us to understand real and sincere love the way God intends for us and I totally agree.

I really hope you read this book and share it. Have a lovely weekend lavs!

P.S: The Genre of this book is Christian. Just a heads-up for any non-christian. But like I said, it is a very enlightening book, irrespective of your belief.